Monday, September 27, 2010

It's Nice Until It Isn't

A note.

I am so tired of hearing the excuses.

I am so tired of hearing, "It must be nice....".

It must be nice to live a life of privilege.

To be able to be ignorant of the color of the person's eyes who just died because they were so hungry that death was more welcome than the fight for life.

To have the freedom to whine about another hard day at work to someone else who had a hard day at work and to commiserate and find solace in one another so you can wake up and do it again tomorrow.

To bitch about the living conditions just outside of your neighborhood and the price of health care and the status of the educational system and the damn bank account that always hovers around zero.

To complain about the person who believes that and raise an eyebrow at the person who is placing items you would never buy on the checkout counter in front of you and the person saying things on t.v. or behind you in line that you would never say.

I will tell you from experience - it is only nice up until the point that you are aware that it is not nice.

Awareness changes everything.

Suddenly a life of privilege and people dying from hunger and the conditions of health care and the challenges of people around you are not "nice".

They are no longer reasons and ways to escape from life but reasons and ways why I must take responsibility for life.

It is hard.  (And oddly, the more challenging it gets, the closer it gets to returning to "nice" - but a far different version of "nice".)

To start small, to start somewhere, to act instead of whine - that is all I can do.

It all starts with awareness.

A disclaimer: I do not pretend to claim for a second that I am unfortunate.  I do realize how unbelievably blessed I am in life to have these freedoms.  I do not believe that my hardships are measurable in comparison to those in different situations.  I DO want to emphasize, however, the challenges that arise with living a life that is contrary to societal expectations, that challenges even the most fundamental of most beliefs.  To live outside of right and wrong? To be constantly aware of the hardships and blessings we face as humans?  To maintain this awareness while raising the kids, maintaining the household, going through life without a permanent lost look on my face?  It is a challenge.  One I feel blessed to face.
I will hit publish on this as soon as I am done typing to ensure my true feelings are not lost in the electronic world once fear of what others think sets in.  Obviously this is much deeper than my more recent posts but it too is what is going on in my life alongside 21 Secrets and art and yoga and laundry.

It is also a hint as to where LifeUnity - the new page, the newsletter, and so on - is headed.  (Though with a lot more humor sprinkled in). :)

I would love to know - is there anything of which you are aware that is a challenge for you right now?


  1. i am aware that i can weave my own life. it is a challenge to hold this awareness each moment. minute by minute. day by day. to embrace it. to live it. to act on it. to sustain it. to breathe it.

    i am aware that i forget it quite often. it is a challenge to forgive myself and to be imperfect.

  2. Lisa,
    Love the pasion in your voice.

    It is a challenge for me to admit the things I need to change...the need to be kinder to the man I live with, to really show love, everyday.

    there are other challenges, but I will start with one admission for now.
    Hug you, Cheryl

  3. Yet another truly honest post - so refreshing, encouraging, inspiring and sooooo affirming too! :0)

    It takes genuine 'ordinary' courage to be emotionally honest about things, to share what's on our hearts and how we're feeling/thinking about stuff. Its all part of embracing our real-ness and vulnerability - a quality sooo alien in today's culture when we so often we strive (not always successfully lol!) to present ourselves in a very different light: strong, independent, perfect!!?!! However, the very act of being honest and real actually enables us to really connect with others, discovering that we are NOT alone but share the same struggles, thoughts, feelings, inadequacies etc.

    I LOVE that you are endeavouring to be honest and real on here and in all that LifeUnity is grounded on. Its a bit revolutionary, admittedly, but I am soooo with you every step of the way!!
    Hugs and love

  4. This is one of the many reasons we have chosen not to have children. It's hard to explain this one. People don't like it. They take it as a critique on their own choices. I do understand where you are coming from. Very much so. And no, it's not underprivileged, but it isn't easy, either.

  5. Very powerful and passionate. I do like where Life Unity is leading, Lisa. Keep it up. We'll also stand by your side and support your convictions and passions. Theresa

  6. Once again our synergy is amazing! I just bought the domain name "The Practical Revolutionary" as a place for me to speak my truth and to challenge other people to find theirs. We are of privilege and we can make a difference!